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14 Reasons We're Slow to Forgive
41 Fear Conquering Actions
5 Things I Know About Each Family Member
A Married Couple's First Year
Abusers: Are You Being Verbally Abused?
Abusers: Coping With Insulters
Abusers: Responding To Other's Abuse
Abusers: Responding to Verbal Abuse
Adaptation: Adapting to Bumpy Roads
Addiction: Overcome Addiction Proverbs Style
Addiction: Signs of Addiction
Addicton: How We Get Addicted
Adult Children of Difficult Parents
Affliction vs. Infliction
Alliance Building the Wrong Way: Gossip
Anger and Shame
Anger is Controllable
Anger Like an Oil Pressure Gauge
Anger Reduction Steps
Anger Turned Inward
Anger, Road Rage, Ancient Traffic Safety Tips Based on Proverbs (wheel)
6.5" double sided wheel. 32 aggravating traffic irritations and 32 Proverbs intended to keep us calm. Action steps and "sacred driving instructions" included! Great gift idea for new motorists. Caution: Do not use while driving! A "build it yourself" wheel: simply download, glue, cut, and affix. Get...
Anger: AngerLIFELINE, Hope and Help for the Hot Tempered (wheel)
7.5" double sided data wheel. Download and build it yourself. 30 Proverbs on side A identifies 30 different types of anger. Side B lists 30 Proverbs with 30 anger management strategies. (Get the free Assembly Instruction page to see how easy these are to cut and put together).
Anger: Responding to Angry People
Anxiety: Fear Wheel
8", two sided data wheel. Side A lists ways to respond to situations that contribute to fear (danger, safety, disaster, poverty, other's opinions, failure, unpredicatabiilty, looking bad).Side B lists ways to adjust attitudes that contribute to fear (guilt, disreputable, hard hearted, secrecy, cluel...
Anxiety: Risk Disk, Achieve Serenity in the face of Uncertainty (wheel)
7.5" double sided wheel. From Erik''s private collection, he uses these 38 philosophical quotes to come to terms with life's potential dangers, hazards, and natural disasters. A "build it yourself" wheel: simply download, glue, cut, and affix. Get the free Assembly Instructions to see how easy it is...
Anxiety: Worry Wheel
8" data wheel, 2 sided. Side A offers suggested responses to situations that cause worry (trials, death, tragedy, what if's, rejection, sickness, feelings of doom, perceived dangers) and Side B offers alternatives to attitudes that contribute to worry (anxiety, faithlessness, sin, lack of motivation...
Apologetics: Embrace Uncertainty: Avoiding Ignorance of Ignorance (wheel)
7.5" double sided wheel. From Erik's private collection, this wheel gives much comfort when feeling baffled, nonplussed, and bewildered. 16 Bible truths remind users that we "see through a glass darkly." A "build it yourself" wheel: simply download, glue, cut, and affix. Get the free Assembly Instru...
Apologetics: We've Blown It! A Candid Admission of Our Failings (wheel)
7.5" single-sided wheel. From Erik's personal data wheel collection, this list of 12 criticisms of Christianty (naive, violent, irrelevant, uncharitable, divisive, intollerant, implausible, arrogant, anti-science, hypocritical, gullible, repellant) are a reminder to stay humble, contrite, and gentle...
Apologetics: Why I Am An AgNOSEtic: Evidences for Aromas and Odors Suggest a Smelling Hoax (wheel)
7.5" double sided. Another volvelle from Erik's private collection. In a flight of fancy Erik compiled 30 evidences for the sense of smell and 30 refutations along with 30 reasons why "I am not an Aromatician." The point of this somewhat whacky wheel is rather obscure, so included is a user's guide ...
Ask Conflict Reducing Questions
Assertiveness: Asking for What We Want
Assertiveness: Assertiveness vs. Passivity vs. Aggression
Attachments: Attachment Styles Compared
Attachments: Dismissive Attachment Style
Attachments: Evaluating Early Attachments
Attachments: Fearful Attachment Style
Attachments: How Attached Am I?
Attachments: Preoccupied Attachment Style
Attachments: Secure Attachment Style
Avoid Conflict Provoking Comments
Avoid Making Hasty Accusations
Be Ye Vulnerable (free)
In the '80s and '90s Erik was one of the anonymous contributors to the Christianity Today humor column Eutychus. This piece appeared in Oct. 25, 1993.
Behavior: Healthy and Unhealthy Patterns of Behavior
Behavior: Staying on Track the Proverbs Way
Blame: Overcome Blaming in Marriage
Boundaries: 12 Types of Influential Relationships in Proverbs
Boundaries: Help For Those Who Can't Say No
Boundaries: Responding to Other's Opinion of Us
Can a Couple Survive an Affair?
Causes VS. Contributions to Conflict
Challenging the Pepe le Pew Syndrome
Change: Goal Setting Action Steps
Change: Making Vital Changes (wheel)
7.5" single sided wheel. To achieve the changes we desire we need five vital components: incentive, skill, vision, resources, and an action plan. With a Bible verse for each, this simple wheel gets us moving! A "build it yourself" wheel: simply download, glue, cut, and affix. Get the free Assembly I...
Change: Motivation for Personal Change
Cheerfulness: Joy Finder Wheel
7.5" single sided data wheel. With four movable base wheels this item can create 4096 different ways to experience joy. 16 bits of Proverbial wisdom help users replace 16 negative emotions with 16 positive emotions by developing 16 character traits. A "build it yourself" wheel: simply download, glue...
Cheerfulness: Tips from Solomon
Children Angry at their Parent's Divorce
Church Declutterer Needed (free)
Short humor piece from Your Church magazine, May/June, 2000.
Citizenship
Climbing up the Ladder of Success
Co Parenting Questionairre
Communication: Ask For And Give Marital Emotional Support
Communication: Decision Making in Marriage
Communication: DIALog: Six Steps to Incredible Communication (wheel)
7.5" double sided wheel. This is unarguably the best communication tool we use in counseling. Couples love it! By following the six specific tasks of a listener and the six DIFERENT tasks of the speaker we eliminate assumptions, hot buttons, stone walling, and other communication land mines! Applica...
Communication: Six Communication Tasks
Conflict and Desires
Conflict Mediation Proverbs Style
Conflict: Acceptance VS. Complaining in Marriage
Conflict: Boundaries and Equality Grid
Conflict: Evaluate Your Arguments
Conflict: Help From Proverbs to Overcome Defensiveness (wheel)
7.5", double sided wheel. Identify and reject these 32 ill-advised truth blocking strategies used to protect egos, divert attention, and avoid reality. A "build it yourself" wheel: simply download, glue, cut, and affix. Get the free Assembly Instructions to see how easy it is to build your own thera...
Conflict: How to Have a Miserable Marriage
Conflict: Marriage Conflict Resolution Grid
Conflict: Overcome Anger in Marriage
Conflict: Overcome Meanness in Marriage
Conflict: Overcome Triangles in Marriage
Conflict: Reconciliation Wheel
7.5", double sided data wheel. If Erik had to be stranded on a desert island with an estranged partner and only one wheel, this would be it! 48 "distancing" behaviors our partners may do, 48 possible "pursuit" behaviors we may be doing, and 48 Proverbs on the subject. Also 24 repair strategies with ...
Conflict: Staying Calm in Marital Conflict
Conflict: Thoughts to Embrace About Marital Conflict
Conflict: What's Wrong with A Good Fight in Marriage?
Confront Conflict Not Family Members
Confronting An Offensive Parent
Confronting Those Who Disappoint
Connecting With The Hard To Connect With
Conquering Anxiety
Conquering Fear Quiz
Control: Closeness VS. Control
Control: When an Uncooperative Man Says You're a Controlling Woman
Control: When an Uncooperative Woman Says You're a Controlling Man
Controllers: Responding to Controllers
Coping With Stress in a Ministry Marriage
Counseling as Soul Care
Creativity. Reverse Brain Storming (free)
One page. Quickie worksheet unleashing new ways to look at problems and getting unstuck. A surprisingly simple yet profound way to get unstuck. Add this to your shopping cart for free. No charge.
Crossing Two Bridges in Biblical Counseling
Cultivate Happiness While Single
Decision Making Processes
Four page .pdf file on how to make group decisions. If indecision stymies one person imagine a whole committee of indecision. Here's an easy and workable solution to breaking through group log jams.
Decisiveness: Decision Making Grid (free)
One page. Simple pro and con worksheet for evaluating decisions. Add to your shopping cart for no extra charge. It's free.
Decisiveness: Making Right Decisions
Decisiveness: SPINdecision: Solve Problems, Make Choices, Choose Options (wheel)
7.5" single sided wheel. A proven 8 step system to think through any tough decision. Steps include: clarify the problem, establish and prioritize criteria, brainstorm options, eliminate the undoable, create an action plan, impliment and evaluate. A "build it yourself" wheel: simply download, glue, c...
Defensiveness: Overcome Defensiveness in Marriage
Defensiveness: Overcome Self Justification in Marriage
Defensiveness: Overcome Walled Off Hearts
Dependent on Women?
Depression: Understand Depression
Difficult: Coping With Difficult People
Difficult: Coping With Toxic People
Difficult: Phrases To Use With Difficult People
Difficult: When Offenders Can't Explain Why They Offend
Discernment: Choosing Wise Friends
Discernment: Folly Spotter: Profiling Bad Character, Negative Attitudes, and Foolish People from the Book of Proverbs (wheel)
7.5" single sided data wheel. During WW II citizens were given enemy aircraft spotter wheels so they could identify from mere profile what kind of airplane was flying overhead. In this novel adaptation, users are given 24 profiles of bad characters, negative attitudes, and foolish people. While the ...
Divorce: Options to Divorce
Divorce: Predictors of Divorce
Divorce: Stages of Divorce
Drama: Do You Love Drama?
Dropping Our Kierkegaard (free)
In the '80s and '90s Erik was one of the anonymous contributors to the Christianity Today humor column entitled, "Eutychus." This piece appeared in January, 1986.
Drugs: Marijuana and the Bible
Either Or: Over 400 Pithy Reminders That There Are At Least Two Solutions to Every Problem
Either Or: Two Solutions to Every Problem
Two sided novelty toy. This wheel accompanies the Either Or booklet also available on this site. Free down load of seven pages for easy assembly. Join the obliterate one option only thinking revolution by making copies of this wheel for family and friends.
Embarrassment: Dealing with Embarrassment
Emotional Comfort Levels (free worksheet)
One page. Here's a tool to help couples identify for themselves and each other their hot buttons, their comfort levels, and how to navigate problem areas.
Emotions: Choosing our Moods
Emotions: Constructive and Destructive
Emotions: Driving Yourself Crazy (free reprint)
Article from Focus on the Family magazine, April 2008
Emotions: Emotional Intelligence
Emotions: How to Control Your Emotions
Emotions: Measuring Our Mood Swings
Emotions: Myths About Emotional Chain Reactions
Emotions: Our Frames Influence our Feelings
End The Pursuing-Distancing Dance
Energy: SPINergy: High Performance Lives Built on Proverbs (wheel)
7.5" double sided data wheel. 24 energy drainers and 24 energy boosters based on ancient wisdom literature--Proverbs. A "build it yourself" wheel: simply download, glue, cut, and affix. Get the free Assembly Instructions to see how easy it is to build your own therapeutic information data wheel.
Engagement: Boredom, Calling, and Work
Engagement: Boredom: The Un-merry Go Round
Engagement: Conquering Boredom
Envy: Identify the Symptoms and Overcome the Problem of Envy (wheel)
7.5" double sided data wheel. 20 Bible verses to help users become servants, selfless, wise, content and more. A "build it yourself" wheel: simply download, glue, cut, and affix. Get the free Assembly Instructions to see how easy it is to build your own therapeutic information data wheel.
Expectations: Lowering Expectations
Express: Do Not Bottle Up Your Emotions
Express: Do Not Stuff Them
Express: Tell The Truth About Your Feelings
Family and the Trinity
Family Expectaions List
Family Interactions
Family Spirituality Six Streams
Family Wish List
Family: Cuzins' Kamp, Organize and Lead a Mini-Retreat for your Grandchildren
Paper cover, spiral bound, 58 pages. Chapters include, "What is Cuzins' Kamp?" "A Family Tree Needs Strong Roots," "Meals, Wheels, and Deals," "If Mom says No, Ask Grandma," "Teaching your Children's Children," and "Is there Live Without TV?" Based on the popular article by Erik in Focus on the Fami...
Family: Twist, Don't Shout: A Teenager's Guide to Raising Happy Parents (wheel)
7.5" double sided. 40 Proverbs describing how certain teen behaviors trigger reactions in parents. Stop the triggers and get different parental reactions. A "build it yourself" wheel: simply download, glue, cut, and affix. Get the free Assembly Instructions to see how easy it is to build your own t...
Famly Drama
Fear: Some Preliminary Thoughts
Fear: Ways Our Thoughts Go Awry
Finding Fear's Root Causes
Five Attitudes Regarding Conflict
Focus: Baggage in Marriage
Focus: Overcome
Focus: Overcome
Focus: Things I Value, Things I Don't
Focus: Traits of a Healthy Marriage
Focus: What's Your Focus in Marriage?
Focus: Wise Marriage Proverbs Style
Food
Food: Manage Eating Disorders with Ancient Wisdom
For Those Weak in Faith
Forgive and Forget by Lewis Smedes
Forgive Yourself
Forgiveness Worksheet
Forgiveness: Issues and Answers
Forgiving Those Who Don't Admit They're Wrong
Four Causes of Infidelity
Freedom from Fear: Some strategies
From Blame to Understanding
Frustration: Understanding Frustration
Fusion: Anxiety in Marriage
Fusion: Differences in Marriage Not a Bad Thing
Fusion: Differentiation in Marriage
Fusion: Emotional Fusion in Marriage
Fusion: Overcome Emotional Fusion
Fusion: Self Soothing in Marriage, Staying Calm
Goal Setting in Marriage
Goals: Goals vs. Desires
God
God's Sovereignty and the Problem of Pain
Ground Zero Adultery (free)
Free article from Focus on the Family magazine, July 2007. Add to your shopping cart at no extra charge.
Guilt: False vs. Real
Handling Difficult Feelings in Conflict
Happiness: Three Routes to Happiness
Happiness: Where Is Your Happiness On-Off Switch?
Hate: Good Hate, Bad Hate in Proverbs
Healing from Childhood Trauma
Helping Others Feel Safe
How to be an Effective Mentor (free)
Article from Leadership Journal, Spring 2000.
How to get a 2-year-old to Bed
How to Raise Guilty Kids! (free)
One page. Things not to do. 'Nuf said.
Humility: Humility, Not Arrogrance
If You Had Controlling Parents
Improvisation and Family Conflict
Infidelity and Deception
Influence: How To Influence Your Husband
Influence: How To Speak So Men Will Listen
Influence: My Partner Won't Change
Influence: When Your Spouse Resists Change
Insecurity: Can a Man Love a Woman Too Much?
Intergenerational Blending in the Bible
Intergenerational Blending in the Church
Interview Your Teenager
Jealousy: Yours and Others
John Grisham Sanctified (free)
This humor article first appeared in the DOOR, July/August 1999.
Joining the Generations (free)
Article from Discipleship Journal, Issue 118, 2000.
Jury Duty
Justice: SPINjustice, Humanitarianism and Oppression in Proverbs (wheel)
7.5" double sided data wheel. 15 acts of benevolence and 15 acts of oppression in the book of Proverbs. Designed as a reminder of Solomon's (and hopefully our) passion for justice. A "build it yourself" wheel: simply download, glue, cut, and affix. Get the free Assembly Instructions to see how easy ...
Knowing God: The Miracle Cure for Emotional and Relational Conflicts
Labeling: Overcome Negative Labling in Marriage
Liars: If You Think You're Being Lied To
Liars: Liars and Posers and Frauds, Oh My!
Liars: Tricks Liars Use to Manipulate Their Accusers
Liars: Two Kinds Of Lies
Liars: When Loved One Lies
Life Without Rules
Listening: Sound Listening: Control Your Brain by Training Your Ears (wheel)
7.5" double sided. Proverbs teaches there is a connection between our listening skills and our ability to concentrate. People with trained ears do 9 things, take 21 action steps, avoid 21 symptoms of untrained ears, and focus on 9 contributing factors to untrained ears. Ramp up your brain power by m...
Living with Chronic Pain and Suffering
Making the Incredible Credible (free)
The gospel becomes good news to others when they see it in our daily lives. Article from The Chrisitan Leader (Mennonite Brethren), September 25, 1990.
Managing Obsessive Fearful Thoughts
Marital Harmony Wheel #1
8", two sided data wheel. Side A gives ways to respond to situations that threaten marital harmony (anger, nagging, materialism, jealousy, lack of forgiveness, neglect, unfaithfulness, harshness). Side B suggests ways to adjust attitudes that threaten marital harmony (negativity, deception, worthles...
Marital Harmony Wheel #2
8", two sided data wheel. Side A identifies 8 situations that threaten marital harmony (clutter, impatience, drama, complaints, silence, rejection, correction, quirkiness). Side B lists 8 attitudes to change that threaten marital harmony (self righteousness, reactivity, avoidance, law breaking, impu...
Marital Harmony Wheel #3
8" two-sided data wheel. Side A lists 8 situations that threaten marital harmony (overly sensitive spouse, lack of clarity, criticism, abandonment, violence, denial, laziness, teasing). Side B lists 8 attitudes we can change that threaten marital harmony (need to be right, offensiveness, nagging, ir...
Marriage Maintainance (free)
Erik's Article from Focus on the Family from June/July 2009.
Marriage: Drought Time for Women
Marriage: Managing Marital Irritations (Free Digital copy)
Topics include: Types of Irritations, Types of Reactions, Four Types of Relationships, Changing YOU, Judging, Blaming, Trust, Sensitivity, Resiliency, Proverbs, and more. Price includes shipping and handling.
Marriage: Schismogenesis, A Light Hearted Lexicon of Marital Blunders
eBook to be downloaded. Don't let the unique title of this book throw you. It's a handy summary of over 100 (115 to be exact) ways we can damage marital harmony. An alphabetized and humorous cartoon compendium of complex psychological blunders, made easy to understood. Even if you're not married th...
Measuring Forgiveness
Measuring Parent/Teen Harmony
Miscellaneous: Circular Reasoning, Why I Create Volvelle Wheels (free article)
Two page introduction to why I'm fascinated with round charts.
Miscellaneous: Life Span Calculator (wheel)
7.5" calculation wheel, two sided. When theologians in the 17th century got bored they invented things like decimal points, slide rules, logarithms, and algebra. When Erik gets bored he reinvents obsolete circular calculation devices. This item is an absolute necessity if you're ever without electr...
Miscellaneous: Upper Hand: Practice Sign Language and Learn Proverbs (wheel)
7.5" double sided wheel. 26 letters of the alphabet, 26 hand motions, 25 Proverbs (and 1 verse from Esther!) equals a novelty item for those learning AmSlan (American Sign Language). A "build it yourself" wheel: simply download, glue, cut, and affix. Get the free Assembly Instructions to see how eas...
Miscellaneous: Wheel Assembly Instruction Page (free article)
When you buy and download the makings of your own data wheel (also known as a "volvelle" or therapeutic round chart) simply follow these easy to assemble instructions. Free.
Miscellaneous: Word Whirl, Create Words, Find Rhymes, Check Spelling (wheel)
7.5" single-sided data wheel. Three concentric wheels with prefixes, suffixes, consonants and vowels. I use this novelty item as a memory jogger to find words on the tip of my tongue, to make up new words, and to find rhymes. This item has no therapeutic significance other than the fun of playing wi...
Money: Wheels of Fortune: Money Management Strategies from Proverbs
7.5" double sided data wheel. 12 General Principles of Business Management, 12 General Principles of Money Management, 12 Actions and Attitudes that Lead to Poverty, 12 Actions and Attitutdes that Lead to Prosperity, 12 things better than riches, and 12 hidden costs of shady money deals. All based o...
Money: Why Gamble? A Theological and Philosophical Appeal to Avoid Gaming, Gambling, and Betting (wheel)
7.5" double sided wheel. 16 rationalizations for gambling ("It's fun!" "Gaming is how I invest!" "It relaxes me!" and 13 more) and 16 responses with 16 Biblical passages discouraging the practice. A "build it yourself" wheel: simply download, glue, cut, and affix. Get the free Assembly Instructions ...
My Personal Dreams and Goals List
Needs: 52 Needs in Marriage
Needs: Are You Married to an Imperfect Man?
Needs: Drought time: Help From Proverbs For The Emotionally Parched Woman (free)
Wives have taught me what they do that works when their emotional needs are unfulfilled. They've also taught me what DOESN'T work. A summary list of the 41 strategies they've taught me. (See Drought Time the book for elaboration).
Needs: Four Options for the Uncherished Wife
Needs: Kindness in Marriage
Needs: The Pleasing Mandate in Marriage
Needs: Unmet Needs in Marriage
Needs: Ways a Husband Shows Love
Needs: Ways a Wife Shows Love
Normalizing Emotions of the Hurt Spouse
Normalizing Emotions of the Offending Spouse
Overlooking Offenses
Panic: Control and Prevent
Parent Anger
Parent Teen Negotiation Worksheet
Parenting Without Boundaries
Parenting: Attitude Problems in Teenagers: Sources, Resources, and Solutions
43 pages, plastic comb binding, paper cover. Contents include: relationship building ideas, conflicts teens face, clearing our consciences, getting strict (discipline that works--most of the time!), what's it like to live with you, resolving anger in families, minimize self defeating behaviors, emot...
Parenting: Building Bridges Between Parents and Teens
Paper cover, 56 pages, plastic spiral binding. Workbook used in Erik's popular seminar of the same name. Focusing on unmanaged anger, unresolved conflict, unreached family goals, and unhealthy relationships.
Parenting: Creativity, How to Foster it in Yourself and Your Kids
67 pages, paper cover, plastic comb binding, illustrated by the author. Topics include: Why creativity is important, graphic learning strategies (visual arts in the home), creativity boosters, humor, memory joggers, 10 steps to boost creativity, games to play, and more. Price includes shipping and h...
Parenting: Positive Parenting the Strong Willed Child and Teen
Paper cover, spiral bound, 40 pages. It's a sobering moment when a representative from Child Protective Services sits in your office with parents whose children have been removed from the home and they say, "Teach these parents to manage their kids without hitting them." Always one who loves a chall...
Parents and Discipline
Parents In-law
Parents Who Rescue Their Teens
Parents Win Back Your Teens Heart
Parents: Stay Calm
Pastor Amos in Parish Snatchers
8 pages of a 64 page graphic novel that never made it to print. Click on the cover to see a .pdf of all 8 pages.
People: Addiction to a Person
People: Breaking Unhealthy Soul Ties
Perfectionism: St. Paul's Cure
Priorities: What's Most Important? A Study in Values from Proverbs (wheel)
7.5" single sided data wheel. 16 mismatched caricatures suggest how our lives will be mismatched if we don't prioritize according to wisdom. Don't let the whimsical nature of this novelty item fool you. The 16 "better than" Proverbs are powerful challenges for those who value the wrong things. A "bu...
Proverbalism
Proverbs Pattern for Provoked People
Providence
Provocateurs: Drama Kings and Queens
Psychology in Proverbs
Purity Covenant for Dating Couples (free)
One page. Despite statistics that would suggest otherwise, there are couples who want to wait until marriage for sex. Here's a free tool to clarify and cling to those expectations.
Reduce Defensiveness in a Conflict
Reduce Marital Anger
Reduce Presumption in a Conflict
Reduce Shoulds in a Conflict
Regaining Spousal Trust
Regret: Regret Wheel
8" data wheel, two sided. Side A lists 8 suggestions on responding to situations that contribute to regret (words, unreached goals, not preventing calamity, failure, bad luck, not being nicer, ignroing other's warnings, missed opportunities). Side B lists 8 suggestions on changing attitudes that con...
Regret: St. Paul's Cure
Resiliency: Resiliency Quiz
Respond to a Teen's Walled Off Heart
Respond to Angry Teens
Respond to Apathetic Teens
Respond to Attachment Disordered Teens
Respond to Cutting Teens
Respond to Defiant Teens
Respond to Drug Using Teens
Respond to Irritating Teens
Respond to Malicious Teens
Respond to Resistant Teens
Respond to Silent Teens
Respond to Teens With Negative Attitude
Respond to Withdrawing Teens
Rethinking Our Trials
Revivial at the Box Office (free)
In the '80s and '90s Erik was one of the anonymous contributors to the Christianity Today humor column Eutychus. This humor piece appeared in December 13, 1993.
Roles: A Husband's Job Description from God
Roles: Gender Roles in Marriage
Rules of Communication
Sapiential (Wisdom) Therapy
Secrets: Dark Secrets: The Wisdom of Disclosure and the Folly of Secrecy (wheel)
Double sided, 7 1/2 " wheel with 48 quips from Solomon on why keeping our dark secrets is ill advised and why disclosing our dark secrets is recommended. Get the courage to break the silence with this unique data wheel. A "build it yourself" wheel: simply download, glue, cut, and affix. Get the free...
Self control: CALMpact Disk, Calmly Respond Without Reaction to Provocations, Vexations, and Irritations (wheel)
7.5" double sided wheel. 60 Proverbs and tips on staying calm when provoked: disengage, be less vulnerable, exercise self control, do not perpetuate the conflict, make sure you didn't start it, de-escalate the conflict, and more. This was one of Erik's first wheels inspired by the realization that "...
Self Control: Parts, Increase Self Control by Understanding the Components of our Heart
108 pages. The most significant discoveries Erik's made in 30+ years as "physician of the soul" are summarized in this booklet. What others call "sub personalities," King David, Solomon, and St. Paul call "Parts." No other therapeutic technique has generated as much success, joy, and enthusiasm. To...
Self control: SPinaction: 36 Actions Guaranteed to Keep You Stuck in Perpetual Victimhood (wheel)
SPinaction is a tongue-in-cheek look at why some people love to complain but are slow to take action. 36 actions guaranteed to keep you stuck in perpetual victimhood! Practice the fine art of belly aching! A "build it yourself" wheel: simply download, glue, cut, and affix. Get the free Assembly Ins...
Self Doubt
Separate Spousal Living Arrangements: Yes, No, Maybe?
Separating from Unhealthy Family Control
Sex: Changing Unwanted Same Sex Attraction (SSA)
Sex: Controlling Compulsive Sexual Behavior
Sex: Female Sexual Response
Sex: Male Sexual Response
Sex: Mismatched Sexual Desires
Sex: Sanctification Coaching
Sex: Sexual Difficulites in Marriage
Sex: Sexual Intimacy, Some Things to Consider
Sex: Sexual Relations in Marriage
Shame: How Shame Affects Us
Shame: The Bible on Shame
Shame: What is it? How to overcome it?
Shapin' Lives at Kuzin's Camp (free article)
How to host a mini retreat for your grandchildren. Article from Focus on the Family, March 1999.
Should We Stay Married After an Affair?
Sibling Conflict Worksheet
Six Conflict Reduction Tips
Six Social Emotions
Sleep: SPinsomnia: Get Restorative and Refreshing Sleep the Bible Way (wheel)
7.5" two sided, build it yourself information wheel. Side One: 20 things we can do to induce sleepiness. Side Two: 20 other things we can do to reduce wakefulness. A "build it yourself" wheel: simply download, glue, cut, and affix. Get the free Assembly Instructions to see how easy it is to build yo...
Sloth: SPindolence: Tips from Proverbs on Motivating the Unmotivated, Activating the Inactive, and Coping with the Loafing (wheel)
Speaking Without a Doubt (free)
How much certainty do people need? How much can you give? Article for pastors from Leadership Journal, Winter, 1994.
Stealth Drawings: The Existential Quandary of Being Looked At
Stepping Over the Gap (free)
How three churches are doing trans-generational ministry, article from Leadership Journal, Spring, 1999.
Stop Obsessing About a Partner's Infidelity (free)
One page, brief list of how to stop obsessing over your partner's infidelity. Add to your shopping cart for no extra charge.
Stuff: A Christian View
Stuff: Overcome Hoarding
Teaching Teens the Power of Blessing (free)
How to take the ingredients of the "blessing" (Smalley and Trent) and apply them to youth ministry. Article from Youth Ministries Magazine, March/April 1996.
Teen Appreciation Worksheet
Teen Parenting Pointers
Teens and Rebellion
Teens: Do Not Be Simple (naive, foolish)
Temptation: Battling Temptation from Proverbs 2
Temptation: Extra Help Battling Temptation
Temptation: Overcome Temptation the Proverbs Way
Temptation: Resist The Wooing of a Fool
Temptation: Resisting The Gang of Tempters in Our Head
Temptation: Why Do I Behave Badly?
Ten Conflict Management Strategies for Associate Pastors (free)
Article from Enrichment Journal, Fall 2003.
The Anger Sequence
The Confronter's Bible (free)
In the '80s and '90s Erik was one of the anonymous contributors to the Christianity Today column Eutychus. This humor piece appeared in ovember 22, 1985.
The Effect of Ego Strength on Extramarital Involvement Among Protestant Clergy
Ph.D. thesis by Dr. Mitch Whitman, April, 2004 (Seattle Pacific University). 146 pages.
The Effect of Fear on the Body
The Fear Sequence
The Jurassic Church Comes of Age (free)
In the '80s and '90s Erik was one of the anonymous contributors to the Christianity Today humor column Eutychus. This piece appeared in October 4, 1993.
Thinking About Doctrinal Unity (Free)
Three articles from The Christian Leader (Mennonite Brethren Magazine): Diversity, Anxiety or Joy?, Seeking a Way Together, Living With the Tensions. September-October, 1992.
Thoughts Behind Indulgent Parenting
Thoughts Influence Anger
Three Ways to Stay Calm
Time Crunch (free)
Article from Focus on the Family, August, 2007.
To a Mother of a Teenage Girl (free)
One page. A mother wrote me a letter about her daughter and here's my response. Hope it'll be helpful to parents of teenage girls.
Trauma and Anger
Trauma Recovery
Trust: Exercise Our Trust Muscles
Trust: Rebuild Trust the Proverbs Way
Turn Anger to Forgiveness
Types of Hearts
Types of Indulgent Parents
Validation: End Reactivity, Blaming, Defensiveness
W1. Self Control: Anna the Banana Tree
8.5" x 5.5" stapled paper cover, 26 pages. If you found Shel Silverstein's boundaryless Giving Tree too vulnerable, here's the antidote. Anna The Banana Tree says "no" to being used. This satiric spoof of the classic children's book was a hit with those who first read it in 1998 and it still pleases...
What Are Marriage Vows and Licenses For?
When Loved Ones Wander
Why Did You Cheat?
Why Do Others Misbehave?
Why It's Hard To Calm Down When Emotionally Supercharged
Why Not Take the Kids to Church This Sunday? (free)
Article from Bellingham newspaper called Moms, Dads, and Kids from December, 1993.
Why Others Pull Away From Us
Why Saying No to Teens is Hard
Why We Return to the Familiar
Why We're Reluctant to Evaluate our Parents
Wickedness in Proverbs
Wooing The Hard To Woo
Work: Avoid the Workaholism Trap
Work: If You Hate Your Job
Working Through Offenses
X1. Cartoons: Which Reminds Me of Another Humorous Illustration (collection Vol. 1 of 7)
Vol 1 of the 7 volume series, "The Collected Works of Erik Johnson." 48 pages, 136 drawings published in a variety of Christian and secular magazines. Pastor Randy Pries, Family Life Pastor of Cornwall Church in Bellingham, WA writes, "With an observant eye, and great sense of humor, through this ...
X2. Cartoons: The Pastor Beside Himself (collection Vol. 2 of 7).
Vol. 2 of the 7 volume series, The Collected Works of Erik Johnson. Gag cartoons from a variety of Christian (and secular) magazines. 31 pages, 92 drawings. College ministry pastor Jim Schmotzer writes, "Erik understands ministry because he has lived it, and still loves it. It is refreshing to be ab...
X3. Cartoons: Paradoxology (collection Vol. 3 of 7)
Vol 3 of the 7 volume series, "The Collected Works of Erik Johnson." 16 pages, 41 cartoon gag drawings published in a variety of Christian (and a few secular) magazines mostly about the foibles of church life and ministry.
X4. Cartoons: Pawnward Christian Soldiers (collection Vol. 4 of 7)
Volume 4 (of a 7 part series), "The Collected Works of Erik Johnson." 70 gag cartoons (27 pages) on pastoral ministry, youth ministry, ministry marriage, boards, congregations, and more.
X5. Cartoons: Back Pew Driver (collection Vol. 5 of 7)
Volume 5 of the 7 book series, The Collected Gag Cartoons of Erik Johnson. 27 pages, 71 drawings about church life, ministry, pastoring, youth work, and miscellaneous. Popular Christian writer and speaker Gary Thomas writes, "Back Pew Driver is laugh-out-loud funny. Even better, Erik Johnson's comic...
X6. Cartoons: Working the Tangles (collection Vol. 6 of 7).
Volume 6 of the 7 volume series, The Collected Works of Erik Johnson. 44 pages, 108 drawings on church related themes.
X7. Cartoons: Felt Needs (collection Vol. 7 of 7).
Vol. 7 of 7 "The Collected Works of Erik Johnson." 26 pages, 74 gag cartoons.
X8. Cartoons: You're hired! 100 Gag Cartoons Welcoming You to the World of Professional Youth Ministry
32 pages, paper cover, plastic spiral binding. Erik gleaned his cartoon collection and pulled the best youth ministry cartoons published in Youth Worker Journal and other publications. Price includes shipping and handling.
Z1. Coloring book: Wally Invites a Teenager to Sunday School
8.5" x 11" stapled binding, 17 pages. Simple black and white line drawings for children age 5-10. Wally the 9 year old kid with character talks to a skateboarder about church.
Z2. Coloring book: Good Night, Wally
8.5" x 11" 8 pages, simple black and white line drawings for children ages 5-10 to color. Wally the nine year old kid with character finally stays in bed at night.
Z3. Coloring book: Good Boy, Wally
8.5" x 11" stapled binding, 9 pages. Wally the nine year odl kid with character, shares his food with Anna. Way to go, Wally!
Z4. Coloring book: Wally Cleans His Room
8.5" x 11" 11 pages, stapled binding. Nine year old Wally, the kid with character, learns what a hanger is for, cleans his room, and finds his favorite shoes. For children ages 5-10 to color.